I often think of what life is like for those living in countries where the law criminalizes being homosexual and honestly I am terrified of what that could be like if it were I living in such places. In a changing world where most western countries are becoming more and more accepting of LGBTQ people, we still see how in other parts of the world life for the LGBTQ community is like.

Today I woke up to a chilling video shown on taken from CNN of men being thrown from the top of buildings on charges of being gay. It was a chilling reminder how fragile our freedoms are and how we might all be in danger of that weather, you are homosexual or not. In a chilling, IS video you can see an old man in a chair being toppled to the ground for being homosexual. A rational mind would ask; what has the world come to? Why the killing of innocent people in theses case gay/homosexuals, is the latest campaign of terror shown, right after the beheadings of foreigners, Christians, prisoners of war? And yes, this is a war! This is a war of ideology and a religious war as much as it is a twisted form of revolution. The lines are not at all blurred. We know the enemy and we know what its main goal is; the changing of an entire region into an absolute autocratic Islamic country/state. Continue reading

Twins For Equal Rights

I received this post on my Facebook page by one of my friends from South America. They are two identical twins expressing their thoughts on equal rights regarding marriage. For those of you who don’t understand Spanish here’s a rough translations from left upper corner down; I’m Adam and I’m gay. I’m Stephen and I’m straight. We’re identical twins.  We both deserve equal rights to marriage. It’s sweet, but considering recent events in my life, I would go a step further by saying; We all deserve EQUAL RIGHTS period in any facet of life.

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Discrimination Within Discrimination

A world awayThis morning, I came across this picture posted by one my friends on Facebook. The picture shows two border petrol guards one Pakistani and the other Chinese holding hands. The description put above it was to explain that in this part of the world is perfectly normal for two men to hold hands, thus show affection without any gay undercurrent. What got me to write this post were the comments below.

Let me go back in time for a bit just to explain to you why am I so upset about all this. In my 35 years on this rock, I’ve had my share of many abuses by many people from childhood on. I live in a society which has never embraced individuality and being different; on the contrary it fights it and tries to destroy anything that is not “normal”. Abiding by the rules of such a society and country is a MUST if you want to survive. There is no other option, unless you want to be a castaway character from some forgotten novel in a dusty shelf in an out of business bookstore. Discrimination and abuse started early for me. For as long as I can remember, kids always picked on me because I was a “mama’s boy”, a wuss, “girl” and so on. Later on in life it got more personal and vicious with the all so common names such as; faggot, fudge-packer, cocksucker, queer and so on. My story is that of millions upon millions out there. It is nothing new, nothing unheard of before and nothing that hasn’t been posted on any LGBT rights group’s webpage. I’m in no way looking for sympathy nor pity, just stating the facts.

Now, back to present day world. One thing that seems to be consistent in today’s society is the unbelievable imbecilic belief that my being gay is a choice. No matter how many studies have been published at least in the last two decades, there are still people who believe that not only being gay is a choice, but as such it can be cured with the right treatment (shock therapy anyone?). Now let me turn this belief on its head. If any of you think that being homosexual is a choice, then what you’re basically saying is that being heterosexual is one as well, eh? I don’t think a straight guy woke up one morning and said; “I think I’ma suck a dick today. Nah, I chose not too”. Alright, I know that even my previous argument is not going to sway those who have already chosen and made up their minds about what constitutes being gay and the mechanism by which “we” apply this in our daily lives as homosexuals.

For those of you in the not-know, there are many parts of the world where male interaction and thus expression of intimacy (with no sexual undertone) is accepted and even more promoted from parents to children and it is not seen as abnormal nor an aberration. I would like to stress once more that such a behavior is accepted as long as no one suspects there’s something more then just peer love. Where I come from, many men walk around holding each other’s hand, arm, or putting their arm around their friends shoulder, it is normal. What gets me is that if I did such a thing, I would immediately find myself under attack. Why? Well because I’m different. My voice is soft and articulate. I’m courteous and gentle. I have a very vivid/passionate movement of hands and eyebrows. My walk is different. Oh and above all I take care of myself more than any woman I’ve ever encountered in my life (beauty-wise & hygiene). Continue reading

Please Sign this Petition – Help Us Stop This Madness

Stop Vladimir Putin and his Nazi-like government continuing violation of human rights and discrimination against the LGBT Community in Russia

“Thank you to 85,000 All Out members who’ve already signed the petition. We must keep the global pressure up. Please help us now: sign the petition so we can be heard by world leaders and the media.”  Polina A. in Russia

Polina sent this message to All Out members yesterday, as Russia passed a new law that makes it illegal to even say the word “gay”. Dozens of people protesting against the law were dragged away and arrested by police.

Polina speaks on behalf of “Coming Out”, a big Russian gay support organisation facing a trial to fight closure. Their trial has just been postponed to next week. 

Please help us get to 100,000 signatures before the new trial date. Sign now:

— Previous email —

Gay hate and violence increasing in Russia as government cracks down on gay rights organisations. Sign the petition before Coming Out faces trial starting tomorrow:


Crisis in Russia: two brutal murders for being gay within weeks. One man was stabbed to death by neighbours, and a younger man was beaten to death with rocks after coming out.

The rise in attacks is happening as President Putin wages war on gays and lesbians. His government has banned Pride marches and is trying to bring in a new anti-gay law. And tomorrow, a major Russian gay organisation will go on trial to fight closure.

Putin is getting away with the crackdown because there’s little international media attention and no real pressure from other world leaders.

But if we start with a massive petition, we can work to get the crisis on the to do list of every world leaderand onto the front pages of newspapers.

Can you sign before the trial starts tomorrow?

Putin has shown he’s sensitive to international pressure about his treatment of gay and lesbians. When he visited the Netherlands recently, he was greeted by a big protest and media coverage.

He was later forced to claim publicly that he doesn’t support discrimination. Russian human rights workers told the All Out office team that this led directly to their finally being given a meeting with the Ombudsman for Human Rights – a big boost to their work.

Sign now and share the petition with friends and family:

President Putin thinks gays and lesbians are an easy target to help him crackdown on human rights and democracy, in his quest to hold on to power. He sees them as a tiny minority who can’t fight back.

But what if instead of facing only the handful of people in Russia brave enough to stand up to terrifying violence and state power, he faced a movement of millions of us?

We’ve spoken up together about Russia before, but All Out has grown fast in the last two years. There are now 1.6 million of us in every country in the world – and there’s nothing we can’t do together for love.

Please sign now:
Thanks for going All Out,

Andre, Guillaume, Marie, Hayley, Jeremy, Sara, Tile, Wesley and the rest of the All Out team.

PS: There’s so much we could do if we grew the biggest petition the world has ever seen against the crackdown in Russia. Deliver it to embassies in every country. Use it get journalists to write high-profile features criticising Putin. Use it as a rallying point for protests whenever Russian officials visit other countries. Sign here:


Man Stabbed To Death In Russian Village In Homophobic Attack, June 3rd 2013

Deadly homophobia: Man ‘killed for being gay’ in Southern Russia, May 13th 2013

Vladimir Putin says Russia does not discriminate against gays, April 9th 2013

Russia’s Putin annoyed about gay rights discussion, June 4th 2013

The Difference Between You and I – Equal Yet Different

I want to know what it’s like to be normal, to be accepted, to be human, to be equal, to be free.

I want to know what it’s like to be open, to be heard, to be loved, to be happy, to be me.

I want to know what it’s like to feel like I belong, to feel like I am strong, that who I am, isn’t wrong.

I want to know what it’s like to know that I am here, that I’ll make it through the year, to know that I won’t… disappear.

I want to know what it’s like to not have to fight, to see an end in sight, to make what is wrong, right.

I want to know what it’s like, to be able to believe in a higher power that doesn’t see me as sin, or sodomy.

I want to know what it’s like to have liberty and justice for all, to break down this dividing wall, to remove homophobia, from the law.

I want to know what it’s like to have a feeling that isn’t sad, to have something that I’ve never had, to have a child call me Dad.

I want to know what it’s like to not feel like I’m a freak, to not feel like I am weak, to not be silenced when I speak.

I want to know what it’s like, to live beyond a closet door, to see my father once more, to show him I’m not who I was before.

I want to know what it’s like to donate the blood from my veins, but because I’m gay I must refrain, why does my sexuality pertain?!

I want to know what it’s like to not be expelled from school, to not be made to look like a fool, how is my homosexuality breaking a rule?!

I want to know what it’s like to undo what’s been done to me, to give sight to those who cannot see that I am no lesser of a human being.

I want to know what it’s like to not be considered a disease, to not have majority I have to please, to freely express my individuality.

I want to know what it’s like to live in a land truly of the free NOT a land that excludes me this is not how it’s supposed to be!

I want to know what it’s like to not be the target of bigotry, to not have you question my sanity, to not succumb to your superiority.

I want to know what it’s like to overcome all of my fears, to uncry these countless tears that have been shed over the years

I want to know what it’s like to learn about Gay leaders of the past in my high school history class.

I want to know what it’s like can somebody please tell me what is so wrong with that?!

I want to know what it’s like to have pride, to not have to hide, to not have to lie my whole life. To not have my sexuality be denied.

I want to know what it’s like, to not have to feel this hurt inside, to not think these thoughts in my mind, to not contemplate suicide.

I want to know what it’s like, to have this pain in me subside, to heal this wound that bleeds inside. To get back the tears that I’ve cried, to take back the years that I’ve tried, to bring back the life that has died. To unite this world’s divide, to make change with stride, to not stand below, but beside.

I want to know what it’s like to have this choice you say is mine. To have science and religion intertwine. To have love be redefined.

I want to know what it’s like to have a government that won’t instate, unfair laws that provoke hate for fear that society will disintegrate.

I want to know what it’s like to live in a world without hate! A world that does not discriminate! A world in which I can feel safe!

A world in which I can feel safe! Whether I am Gay, Bi, or Straight.

This is the world we must create!!

These are the actions we must take, these are the decisions we must make!

The time is NOW, we cannot, we must not, we will not wait.

I want to know what it’s like to have equal opportunity, to know full equality, to be one humanity.

I want to know what it’s like to be treated equally by my peers, to stand alongside every Queer on the edge of a new frontier.

A frontier that no one will dictate.

A frontier where there will be no debate.

A frontier in which everyone can relate.

A frontier made up of love, and not hate.

I want to know what it’s like to open your eyes, so you can see. The way this world is supposed to be. That we aren’t so different, you and me. Continue reading

Why do You Hate the Women???

Many times in my life, I have found myself answering questions from people in regards to stupid preconceived notions. It has been a struggle to maintain composure and at the same time be able to convey the idea of whatever subject matter I was being asked to answer for. Yesterday was one of those days when you feel not only the individual has completely lost any grasp with reality, but the whole world seems somehow to have lost their mind during the night.

Almost a year ago, I was introduced by a friend of mine to a person who is a Reiki master, and having seen Reiki masters many times throughout the last decade I was thrilled to have found one in my country, let alone in my city. As months progressed we kept a cordial friendship in hopes (on my part) of receiving advice through said person in regards to energy work, inner peace, holistic medicine and so forth. Nothing would have prepared me for what came to be yesterday, this is part of the conversation; Continue reading

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